Change the Way You Think and Speak: Your Thoughts Shape Your Life

iammoett
Nov 29
4 min read

Change the way that you think and speak.

Your thoughts matter more than you know. They shape how you feel, how you move, and what you expect from life. If you let your mind run on autopilot, it will often drift straight to the negative. But you don’t have to live that way.

You have the power to take control of your thinking and choose a better way.

Your Thoughts Matter

What you think about, you bring about.

Your thoughts:

Influence your emotions
Impact your choices
Shape your habits
Build your reality

If your thoughts are always:

“I can’t.”
“Nothing ever works out for me.”
“I’m not enough.”

You’ll start to live like those thoughts are true—even when they’re not.

But when you start thinking:

“I can grow.”
“Good things can happen for me.”
“I am worthy of more.”

You open the door for new possibilities.

Don’t Live on Mental Autopilot

Don’t just allow yourself to be on autopilot, drifting to negative thoughts.

Autopilot thinking looks like:

Overthinking the worst-case scenario
Replaying old hurts over and over
Assuming things will go wrong
Letting your mind run without checking it

You deserve better than that.

You are allowed to pause, notice your thoughts, and decide if they are helping you or hurting you.

Take Control of Your Thinking

Taking control of your thinking doesn’t mean you never have a negative thought again. It means you don’t let negative thoughts run your life.

You can:

Catch the thought
Question the thought
Replace the thought

For example:

“I always mess up” → “I’m still learning, and I’m getting better.”
“Nothing ever works out” → “Some things have been hard, but I’ve also had wins.”
“I can’t do this” → “This is hard, but I can take it one step at a time.”

You don’t have to believe every thought that crosses your mind.

See the Good in Everything

Seeing the good in everything doesn’t mean pretending bad things don’t happen. It means choosing to look for light even in dark moments.

You can say:

“This is hard, but I’m growing.”
“This hurts, but I’m learning something from it.”
“This is not what I wanted, but maybe it’s redirecting me.”

You’re not ignoring reality—you’re choosing a healthier way to respond to it.

You Don’t Have to Stay Stuck in Negative Thoughts

Train your mind not to stay stuck on negative things, even when bad things happen.

It doesn’t mean you can’t:

Feel your emotions
Be honest about your pain
Take time to process

You absolutely can—and you should.

But it does mean you don’t stay there forever.

You let yourself feel, but you also remind yourself:

“This moment is not my whole life.”
“This feeling is real, but it’s not permanent.”
“I can grow through this.”

What You Think About, You Bring About

What you think about, you bring about.

If you constantly think:

“I’m stuck,” you’ll stop looking for ways out.
“I’m broke,” you’ll miss chances to build.
“I’m alone,” you’ll pull away from people who care.

But if you think:

“I’m changing,” you’ll notice your growth.
“I’m learning,” you’ll give yourself grace.
“I’m capable,” you’ll take more chances.

Your mind is powerful. That’s why it’s so important to be mindful of what you’re thinking.

How to Start Changing the Way You Think and Speak

Here are some simple steps to help you shift your mindset:

Notice Your Thoughts
Throughout the day, pause and ask:
“What am I thinking right now?”
Is it helpful or harmful?
Challenge Negative Thoughts
When you catch a negative thought, ask:
“Is this 100% true? Or is this fear, hurt, or habit talking?”
Replace It With Truth and Hope
Choose a better thought that still feels honest but more empowering.
- “I’m failing” → “I’m figuring it out.”
- “I’m behind” → “I’m moving at my own pace.”
Speak Life Out Loud
Use your words to support your growth, not tear yourself down.
Say things like:
- “I’m growing every day.”
- “I can handle what comes my way.”
- “Good things are possible for me.”
Protect What You Feed Your Mind
Pay attention to what you watch, listen to, and read.
Ask: “Does this lift me up or pull me down?”

A Challenge for You

This week, try this:

Write down three negative thoughts you catch yourself thinking often.
Write a new, positive version of each thought.
Every time the old thought shows up, say the new one out loud.

Example:

Old: “I’m not good enough.”
New: “I am growing, and I am worthy of good things.”

Over time, your mind will start to reach for the new thought first.

Final Thoughts: Your Mind Is Powerful

Change the way that you think and speak.

Your thoughts matter.

Your words matter.

You don’t have to live on autopilot, drifting into negativity. You can take control of your thinking, see the good, and refuse to stay stuck in dark places.

Feel your feelings. Process your pain. But don’t live there.

What you think about, you bring about—so be mindful of what you’re thinking and speaking over your life.

You have the power to shift your mind—and when you do, your life will follow.

You’ve got this.